Transitioning From Working to Stay at Home Mom

Hello mommies! Recently I kept on seeing some posts about transitioning from a working diva to a domesticated goddess.😀 I just want to share my experience, before we had our twins I was working with 3 jobs(head teacher/behavioral therapist/freelancer). Needless to say I had the financial freedom to do whatever I wanted and whenever I wanted kasama na diyan ang mga fine dining at shopping paminsan minsan. I was very independent as well. When they came about I had to rest and therefore go on a hiatus. I was very bored and everything was new to me we went through a lot of adjustments like leaving our comfortable apartment in a private village and moving to his place, plus the fact that we have limited financial means. It was also challenging to budget what my husband makes since I was used to having my own money, I didn’t want to ask him if I wanted to have something/go somewhere though supportive naman siya with everything I do and want. After giving birth I was excited to go back to work and help Out with The family expenses, it worked well for quite sometime. Then there will be times that our kids and my husband will need me but I will be too busy at work. I need to be home but I will be stuck in a traffic jam, I felt like it’s robbing me of time that should be spent with our twins. There will be some instances wherein I had to choose over my sick kids and a client who is very strict with their schedules. Though I don’t want to be tagged as unprofessional/with poor work ethics but I WILL ALWAYS CHOOSE MY KIDS FIRST. i had to make a decision and I chose to sacrifice my job that I really love and been doing for the past 8 years and financial freedom. Mommies EVERYTHING WAS WORTH IT!

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I just want to encourage everyone that we can always find a better job someday when the kids are grown and you are not alone in this struggle. As the saying goes “jump when you feel that it’s the scariest.” 😃 the rewards of seeing our twins learn new stuff everyday is more rewarding than any paycheck.😃

Whatever your decision will be, it will always come down to one point: Every mom would do the best they can for their kids even if this means continuing to be a working mom or deciding to stay at home. We choose to do whatever works best for our family. 🙂

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3 Ways to avoid those”losyang days”

“Losyang!”

“Haggard!”

“Mukhang nanay!”

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That was me last Decemeber 2015, the twins were just a couple of months and my friends decided to take a snap shot of me whilst they’re having a cry fest at Starbucks.

Those words cut right through my skin.

I don’t know what the deal is about “mukhang nanay” look, how does our society view moms?

I feel like it’s horrible to associate being a mom to looking like you’ve been hit by a truck!

Being a parent is never easy. Pregnancy brings about a lot of pressure and stress to couples especially if it’s their first time. When the baby comes out(in our case, babies! Yep I popped out 2 in one birthing session) it’s going to be sleepless nights, never ending housework and basically trying to provide the best for our children. Given these instances, we tend to unknowingly let go of ourselves. We even choose to be “mombies”(staying up late just to have some me time).

I tried my best to look as close as possible to the way I did before becoming a mom of twins, I never allowed myself to be sulky or to feel too fat or too ugly. I want to defy the stigma of “losyang na, kapag nanay na”. 

I made sure to stay fresh-looking without spending a fortune or sacrificing the family budget. Here’s how I did it:

1. ) I stayed hydrated. Dehydrated skin posts a lot of problems in the long run like, acne brought about by oily skin, wrinkles(yikes) and dry scaly skin. Imagine looking pale with cracked dry lips and scaly skin, knowing that you did that to yourself by not having enough fluid intake? In short kasalanan mo why you’re panget and you feel bloated and sulky! Do something about it. We can never be too busy to grab a glass of water.

2.) I eat like an 80 year old granny, work out like a teenager. Cliche as it may sound, my family eats a lot of fruits, veggies, yogurt and protein rich food. Fits right in our budget plus the fact that we don’t have to worry about consuming too much preservatives that gives us bad skin and “extra baggage”. I never had breakouts or any skin problem, I don’t feel heavy after eating because of the preservatives, most of all I don’t feel guilty on cheat day. I work around my busy schedule to have a bit of workout from dancing with my toddlers to  running around with them or having some “yoga time”. Balance is the key. It requires a conscious effort. I failed at keeping on track many times but I chose to never give up.

3.) 3-step-beauty regimen.

Three?

Yes, just 3 steps!

I used to have those long morning rituals and night time skin care routine but it has to go FOR NOW! It just won’t work after 16 hours of being awake chasing after toddlers running in 2 different directions, kaya 3 lang, AGAIN, FOR NOW!

Step 1: Cleanse

I only use 2 products to clean my face, cetaphil or the basic dove white beauty bar. It doesn’t strip away moisture and I don’t get that “tight face” feeling after washing my face. I never had breakouts with these products and I don’t have to use moisturizers that often. It’s also affordable.

Step 2: Glow

I have this secret and I will let the world know! The best thing that you can do for yourself is to scrub your face/body regularly. Doing so improves the blood circulation which is equivalent to giving the skin enough oxygen supply therefore making it healthy. Sloughing of those dead skin cells reveals a new layer that’s so smooth and revitalized. You don’t have to spend too much on a product you can even use some stuff that you already have in the kitchen. I use clinique instant facial mask ($38) but I also use coffee grounds (free) mixed with equal parts of lotion and body wash (everyday items around the house) for my face and body. my point is taking care of your skin and body doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg. There is always a cheaper alternative out there.

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Before the facial scrub
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The clinique miracle worker
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I just use this much
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You can see it had those sparkly beads…
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look at how pearly the mask is against my skin
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aster the scrub( no filter, natural day light from outside our window)
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after the scrub (no filter, natural day light from outside the window)
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Fresh looking version of me…

Step: Natural Flush

During the day, I make sure to make myself look okay to look at. I Don’t need to put on a full face of make up or spend a fortune buying the latest palette since I only use 3 products, my bb cream/cushion, lip and cheek tint and of course mascara for that wide awake look. I maintain that low maintenance look which works well for my routine because I’m always ready to face the people I work with plus I don’t need to spend more than 5 minutes to look put together.

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Everyday look, tint and bb cream, no kilay goals or mascara in this pic.

At the end of the day it all boils down to the decisions we make. I’m not shaming those people who would always say they have no time for themselves but in reality YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF. Being too busy with our family and other responsibilities could really take a toll on our looks and on our health. Since we love them so much wouldn’t it be worth it giving them the idea that you are able to keep it together and that they are not the cause of your haggardness? We owe it to our family to be fit, healthy and looking great just because they deserve the best version of you.

Brain Development

CTP EU EDU 1 Lecture notes on Brain Development

Prepared by Prof. Claire Medina, RN

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What makes up our Brain?

  • Forebrain– largest and highly developed (cerebrum and structures beneath it)
  • Midbrain- upper part of the brainstem (reflex, voluntary movements and eye movement)
  • Hindbrain- upper part of the spinal cord (cerebellum)

Controls heart rate and respiratory functions and coordinates movement

  • The Inner Brain is our limbic system it is composed of a network of nerves and networks in the brain that controls our basic emotions and drive.
  • Hypothalamus (sadness, excitement, body’s alarm clock)
  • Thalamus (“The Control Freak” controls info going to and from the spinal cord)
  • Hippocampus (responsible for “stock knowledge”.)
  • Amygdala (controls emotions,fear/anger, arousal,hormonal secretions)
  • Lateralization is the term used for the specialization of function in one hemisphere.

(reading and playing musical instruments use both hemispheres.

There are two hemispheres:

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Meet the lobes:

 lobes

 

Nerve Cells

nerves

  • Follows genetic code to run its own programming
  • Process info at a cellular level
  • Sends both electrical and chemical signals to communicate with one another.

Dendrites- receives information

Axons-transmits information away

  • Myelination is the process of encasing axons in fat cells, this occurs prenatally and through adolescence.
  • Myelin sheath– covers axons and helps speed up info transmission.
  • Terminal buttons releases neurotransmitters (chemicals) into synapses
  • Synapses are gaps between neural fibers.
  • Synaptogenesis forming of synapses
  • Receptors binds with substances

What is blooming and pruning?

The connections that are frequently used become strong and survive while the ones that are unused are replaced or disappears eventually.

Brain development key points: It takes time to have a big fat brain!

  • Increase in size (mostly in the cerebrum)
  • Increase in number of folds in the cerebral surface. Increase in the cerebral cortex volume

 

Welcome to the “Main Event” in our lecture! 

 

 

Neural Tube

      Neurulation- forming of neural tubes

Starts at 2-3 weeks

Closes the top(brain) and bottom(spinal cord) 24 days after conception

Neurons from neural tube                     brain

 

Neurogenesis

(5th week)

200-500,000 neurons per minute
Neuronal migration (6th-24th weeks)       Neurons move to specific location and wait for instructions.

Genes starts to hardwire or direct the brain’s wiring process.

Connections begin at 23 weeks.

Myelination       Begins in the spinal cord                  subcortical regions

Cortical regions myelinate  from posterior to anterior region

Frontal and parietal lobes are completed last

 

Brain Development from Birth to Two Years of Age:

 

0-1 year

      Weighs about 1000 grams (2 lbs) at 1 year

Approximately: 970g male/940g female

From 7-12 months prefrontal cortex develops dramatically.

At 3-6 months the visual pathways are complete.

 

 

Visual Development

Temporal Lobe       4th month- responds to sounds

10th month able to distinguish and produce sounds of their own language.

Does not respond to sounds of foreign language.

 

Lateralization Left hemisphere is more active when listening to sounds/voices
Amygdala Matures at 8 months
Dendrite Connections       Experiences help in making connections

8-9 months starts to form specific memories based on experience.

Blooming and Pruning More activities or use of language strengthens the pathways of neurons.

 

 

2 Years Old

Brain is at 75% of its adult size

1,120g (2.5 lbs) male

1,040g (2.3 lbs) female.

 

Early Childhood (3-5 years old)

 

 

3 years old

      Rapid growth spurts

Continues increase in dendrite connections and myelination.

Experience shapes one’s mind, blooming and pruning

¾ of adult size

1,270( 2.8 lbs) male

1,090 (2.4 lbs) female

 

4 years old

      Parietal- developed gross and fine motor skills due to myelination

Auditory myelination and hand-eye coordination is complete

 

5 years old

      Brain is at 95% of its adult size

Visual acuity reaches adult level

 

Middle/Late Childhood (6-12 years old)

 

6-7 years old

      Occipital lobe matures

Contrast sensitivity and peripheral vision is at adult levels

8 years old Temporal lobe matures
Cerebral Cortex       Temporal and frontal lobe area thickens

Language abilities like reading is improved

Prefrontal Cortex       Pathways and circuitry is increased

Improved cognitive control, attention and reasoning

Blooming and Pruning       Some brain areas are used more frequently while others are not

from broader areas to more focal and smaller areas

 

Brain Development from Child to Adolescent

CTP EU EDU 1 Lecture notes on Brain Development

Prepared by Prof. Claire Medina, RN

What makes up our Brain?

  • Forebrain– largest and highly developed (cerebrum and structures beneath it)
  • Midbrain- upper part of the brainstem (reflex, voluntary movements and eye movement)
  • Hindbrain- upper part of the spinal cord (cerebellum)

Controls heart rate and respiratory functions and coordinates movement

  • The Inner Brain is our limbic system it is composed of a network of nerves and networks in the brain that controls our basic emotions and drive.
  • Hypothalamus (sadness, excitement, body’s alarm clock)
  • Thalamus (“The Control Freak” controls info going to and from the spinal cord)
  • Hippocampus (responsible for “stock knowledge”.)
  • Amygdala (controls emotions,fear/anger, arousal,hormonal secretions)
  • Lateralization is the term used for the specialization of function in one hemisphere.

(reading and playing musical instruments use both hemispheres.

 

There are two hemispheres:

lobes3 lobes2

Meet the lobes:

lobes

 lobes1

 

Nerve Cells

nerves

  • Follows genetic code to run its own programming
  • Process info at a cellular level
  • Sends both electrical and chemical signals to communicate with one another.

Dendrites- receives information

Axons-transmits information away

 

  • Myelination is the process of encasing axons in fat cells, this occurs prenatally and through adolescence.
  • Myelin sheath– covers axons and helps speed up info transmission.
  • Terminal buttons releases neurotransmitters (chemicals) into synapses
  • Synapses are gaps between neural fibers.
  • Synaptogenesis forming of synapses
  • Receptors binds with substances

What is blooming and pruning?

pruning-and-blooming

The connections that are frequently used become strong and survive while the ones that are unused are replaced or disappears eventually.

 

Brain development key points: It takes time to have a big fat brain!

  • Increase in size (mostly in the cerebrum)
  • Increase in number of folds in the cerebral surface. Increase in the cerebral cortex volume

 

Welcome to the “Main Event” in our lecture! 

 

 

Neural Tube

      Neurulation- forming of neural tubes

Starts at 2-3 weeks

Closes the top(brain) and bottom(spinal cord) 24 days after conception

Neurons from neural tube                     brain

 

Neurogenesis

(5th week)

200-500,000 neurons per minute
Neuronal migration (6th-24th weeks)       Neurons move to specific location and wait for instructions.

Genes starts to hardwire or direct the brain’s wiring process.

Connections begin at 23 weeks.

Myelination       Begins in the spinal cord                  subcortical regions

Cortical regions myelinate  from posterior to anterior region

Frontal and parietal lobes are completed last

 brain

Brain Development from Birth to Two Years of Age:

 

0-1 year

      Weighs about 1000 grams (2 lbs) at 1 year

Approximately: 970g male/940g female

From 7-12 months prefrontal cortex develops dramatically.

At 3-6 months the visual pathways are complete.

 

 

Visual Development

 vision
Temporal Lobe       4th month- responds to sounds

10th month able to distinguish and produce sounds of their own language.

Does not respond to sounds of foreign language.

 

Lateralization Left hemisphere is more active when listening to sounds/voices
Amygdala Matures at 8 months
Dendrite Connections       Experiences help in making connections

8-9 months starts to form specific memories based on experience.

Blooming and Pruning More activities or use of language strengthens the pathways of neurons.

 

 

2 Years Old

Brain is at 75% of its adult size

1,120g (2.5 lbs) male

1,040g (2.3 lbs) female.

 

Early Childhood (3-5 years old)

 

 

3 years old

      Rapid growth spurts

Continues increase in dendrite connections and myelination.

Experience shapes one’s mind, blooming and pruning

¾ of adult size

1,270( 2.8 lbs) male

1,090 (2.4 lbs) female

 

4 years old

      Parietal- developed gross and fine motor skills due to myelination

Auditory myelination and hand-eye coordination is complete

 

5 years old

      Brain is at 95% of its adult size

Visual acuity reaches adult level

 

Middle/Late Childhood (6-12 years old)

 

6-7 years old

      Occipital lobe matures

Contrast sensitivity and peripheral vision is at adult levels

8 years old Temporal lobe matures
Cerebral Cortex       Temporal and frontal lobe area thickens

Language abilities like reading is improved

Prefrontal Cortex       Pathways and circuitry is increased

Improved cognitive control, attention and reasoning

Blooming and Pruning       Some brain areas are used more frequently while others are not

from broader areas to more focal and smaller areas

 

Adolescence (13-18 years old)

 

12 years old

      During this period of adolescence the brain undergoes structural changes

The parietal lobe matures

Corpus Callosum       The hemispheres becomes connected by nerve fibers

Thickens and improves one’s ability in processing information

Amgdala Matures earlier than the prefrontal cortex
Synapses Are at their adult density
At 18 years- 25 years old Both the frontal lobe and the prefrontal cortex mature at this time.

 

The Sisterhood of Moms

“Motherhood is the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary-it’s an act of infinite optimism.” -Gilda Radner

“I had a life!” these are the words that I sometimes hear myself say, more often than I even would want to realize. I was a 28 year old single lady living my life, I had an awesome boyfriend who did well for himself, We had our own place with a bunch of crazy and eccentric mix of housemates, I had a great job managing a company where I come and go as I please, I wake up anytime I want, I go anywhere I want anytime I pleased. I was FREE AS A BIRD! Two years fast forward and I find myself at home doing the dishes at 6:00am, I AM NOW A HOUSE MANAGER A.K.A. “THE MOM BOSS”, I stay at home THE WHOLE DAY and do house chores,  I wake up at ungodly hours and have to “soothe” two toddlers from their fit. YES! TWO AWESOME TODDLERS, Hermes and Perseus( You’re reading it right, we named our kids after mythological gods. WHY?! Because we can! 🙂 ), Our daily routine pretty much go around our twins’ schedule, our jobs included! They are our top priority. Our weekends of sleeping in until 11:00 am is over (might resume in the next 5 years to come), the movie dates were replaced with netflix, the dining out and dating for two is exchanged for play dates and grocery shopping. WE ARE ON FULL ADULTING! Motherhood is an act of full optimism, this is not for the weak (I mean seriously, you will loose it from time to time, you just have to hold on tight. Right, go ahead have that glass of wine.)

I would feel like I am so hopeless and alone, how do people deal with this everyday? Having virtual mom friends from mom groups on social media helped me at keeping my sanity. It makes me feel like I’m not walking through this looooooong winding road alone, there are real people out there having the same mom questions that bothers me, the same wife dilemmas and the same mom-ments of just looking googly eyed at our kids whether they are sleeping or just latched on to our boobies getting their liquid gold, thinking to ourselves “I am so blessed, I am at the happiest place I could be.”

Being a mom actually lessens our “me time” you wake up with house chores and end the day not knowing the difference between passing out and falling asleep. Belonging in a mom club has its great advantage of letting me have my 5-minute break, connecting back to the outside world without leaving the comforts of my home. Just a glance on my cellphone screen and I can have people to share my thoughts and knowledge with, having someone I could relate to and even offer “virtual hugs”. I can get REAL NO BS REVIEWS on baby products, home appliances, clothes and even shops. Online shopping is even more fun knowing that you’re not alone in the addiction of “mine-ing” on items and joining group buys for baby products.

Having enter this life altering, roller coaster adventure of a lifetime chapter in a woman’s life is hard and needs a lot of guts. Having a mom club offers us the feeling of belongingness, sheer and pure acceptance and being part of a virtual community of mothers backing each other up, and empowering women.

I would like to express my gratitude to those fellow moms who never get tired of empowering and lifting each other up. Let’s continue to share the love and warmth of friendship!

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“Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had… and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.” -Linda Wooten

 

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Hermes (left) and Perseus (right), 2016
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Mr. and Mrs.