Hello mommies! Recently I kept on seeing some posts about transitioning from a working diva to a domesticated goddess.😀 I just want to share my experience, before we had our twins I was working with 3 jobs(head teacher/behavioral therapist/freelancer). Needless to say I had the financial freedom to do whatever I wanted and whenever I wanted kasama na diyan ang mga fine dining at shopping paminsan minsan. I was very independent as well. When they came about I had to rest and therefore go on a hiatus. I was very bored and everything was new to me we went through a lot of adjustments like leaving our comfortable apartment in a private village and moving to his place, plus the fact that we have limited financial means. It was also challenging to budget what my husband makes since I was used to having my own money, I didn’t want to ask him if I wanted to have something/go somewhere though supportive naman siya with everything I do and want. After giving birth I was excited to go back to work and help Out with The family expenses, it worked well for quite sometime. Then there will be times that our kids and my husband will need me but I will be too busy at work. I need to be home but I will be stuck in a traffic jam, I felt like it’s robbing me of time that should be spent with our twins. There will be some instances wherein I had to choose over my sick kids and a client who is very strict with their schedules. Though I don’t want to be tagged as unprofessional/with poor work ethics but I WILL ALWAYS CHOOSE MY KIDS FIRST. i had to make a decision and I chose to sacrifice my job that I really love and been doing for the past 8 years and financial freedom. Mommies EVERYTHING WAS WORTH IT!
I just want to encourage everyone that we can always find a better job someday when the kids are grown and you are not alone in this struggle. As the saying goes “jump when you feel that it’s the scariest.” 😃 the rewards of seeing our twins learn new stuff everyday is more rewarding than any paycheck.😃
Whatever your decision will be, it will always come down to one point: Every mom would do the best they can for their kids even if this means continuing to be a working mom or deciding to stay at home. We choose to do whatever works best for our family. 🙂
I don’t know what the deal is about “mukhang nanay” look, how does our society view moms?
I feel like it’s horrible to associate being a mom to looking like you’ve been hit by a truck!
Being a parent is never easy. Pregnancy brings about a lot of pressure and stress to couples especially if it’s their first time. When the baby comes out(in our case, babies! Yep I popped out 2 in one birthing session) it’s going to be sleepless nights, never ending housework and basically trying to provide the best for our children. Given these instances, we tend to unknowingly let go of ourselves. We even choose to be “mombies”(staying up late just to have some me time).
I tried my best to look as close as possible to the way I did before becoming a mom of twins, I never allowed myself to be sulky or to feel too fat or too ugly. I want to defy the stigma of “losyang na, kapag nanay na”.
I made sure to stay fresh-looking without spending a fortune or sacrificing the family budget. Here’s how I did it:
1. ) I stayed hydrated. Dehydrated skin posts a lot of problems in the long run like, acne brought about by oily skin, wrinkles(yikes) and dry scaly skin. Imagine looking pale with cracked dry lips and scaly skin, knowing that you did that to yourself by not having enough fluid intake? In short kasalanan mo why you’re panget and you feel bloated and sulky! Do something about it. We can never be too busy to grab a glass of water.
2.) I eat like an 80 year old granny, work out like a teenager. Cliche as it may sound, my family eats a lot of fruits, veggies, yogurt and protein rich food. Fits right in our budget plus the fact that we don’t have to worry about consuming too much preservatives that gives us bad skin and “extra baggage”. I never had breakouts or any skin problem, I don’t feel heavy after eating because of the preservatives, most of all I don’t feel guilty on cheat day. I work around my busy schedule to have a bit of workout from dancing with my toddlers to running around with them or having some “yoga time”. Balance is the key. It requires a conscious effort. I failed at keeping on track many times but I chose to never give up.
3.) 3-step-beauty regimen.
Yes, just 3 steps!
I used to have those long morning rituals and night time skin care routine but it has to go FOR NOW! It just won’t work after 16 hours of being awake chasing after toddlers running in 2 different directions, kaya 3 lang, AGAIN, FOR NOW!
Step 1: Cleanse
I only use 2 products to clean my face, cetaphil or the basic dove white beauty bar. It doesn’t strip away moisture and I don’t get that “tight face” feeling after washing my face. I never had breakouts with these products and I don’t have to use moisturizers that often. It’s also affordable.
This is the “daily facial cleanser”
image from google
Step 2: Glow
I have this secret and I will let the world know! The best thing that you can do for yourself is to scrub your face/body regularly. Doing so improves the blood circulation which is equivalent to giving the skin enough oxygen supply therefore making it healthy. Sloughing of those dead skin cells reveals a new layer that’s so smooth and revitalized. You don’t have to spend too much on a product you can even use some stuff that you already have in the kitchen. I use clinique instant facial mask ($38) but I also use coffee grounds (free) mixed with equal parts of lotion and body wash (everyday items around the house) for my face and body. my point is taking care of your skin and body doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg. There is always a cheaper alternative out there.
Step: Natural Flush
During the day, I make sure to make myself look okay to look at. I Don’t need to put on a full face of make up or spend a fortune buying the latest palette since I only use 3 products, my bb cream/cushion, lip and cheek tint and of course mascara for that wide awake look. I maintain that low maintenance look which works well for my routine because I’m always ready to face the people I work with plus I don’t need to spend more than 5 minutes to look put together.
At the end of the day it all boils down to the decisions we make. I’m not shaming those people who would always say they have no time for themselves but in reality YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF. Being too busy with our family and other responsibilities could really take a toll on our looks and on our health. Since we love them so much wouldn’t it be worth it giving them the idea that you are able to keep it together and that they are not the cause of your haggardness? We owe it to our family to be fit, healthy and looking great just because they deserve the best version of you.
“Motherhood is the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary-it’s an act of infinite optimism.” -Gilda Radner
“I had a life!” these are the words that I sometimes hear myself say, more often than I even would want to realize. I was a 28 year old single lady living my life, I had an awesome boyfriend who did well for himself, We had our own place with a bunch of crazy and eccentric mix of housemates, I had a great job managing a company where I come and go as I please, I wake up anytime I want, I go anywhere I want anytime I pleased. I was FREE AS A BIRD! Two years fast forward and I find myself at home doing the dishes at 6:00am, I AM NOW A HOUSE MANAGER A.K.A. “THE MOM BOSS”, I stay at home THE WHOLE DAY and do house chores, I wake up at ungodly hours and have to “soothe” two toddlers from their fit. YES! TWO AWESOME TODDLERS, Hermes and Perseus( You’re reading it right, we named our kids after mythological gods. WHY?! Because we can! 🙂 ), Our daily routine pretty much go around our twins’ schedule, our jobs included! They are our top priority. Our weekends of sleeping in until 11:00 am is over (might resume in the next 5 years to come), the movie dates were replaced with netflix, the dining out and dating for two is exchanged for play dates and grocery shopping. WE ARE ON FULL ADULTING! Motherhood is an act of full optimism, this is not for the weak (I mean seriously, you will loose it from time to time, you just have to hold on tight. Right, go ahead have that glass of wine.)
I would feel like I am so hopeless and alone, how do people deal with this everyday? Having virtual mom friends from mom groups on social media helped me at keeping my sanity. It makes me feel like I’m not walking through this looooooong winding road alone, there are real people out there having the same mom questions that bothers me, the same wife dilemmas and the same mom-ments of just looking googly eyed at our kids whether they are sleeping or just latched on to our boobies getting their liquid gold, thinking to ourselves “I am so blessed, I am at the happiest place I could be.”
Being a mom actually lessens our “me time” you wake up with house chores and end the day not knowing the difference between passing out and falling asleep. Belonging in a mom club has its great advantage of letting me have my 5-minute break, connecting back to the outside world without leaving the comforts of my home. Just a glance on my cellphone screen and I can have people to share my thoughts and knowledge with, having someone I could relate to and even offer “virtual hugs”. I can get REAL NO BS REVIEWS on baby products, home appliances, clothes and even shops. Online shopping is even more fun knowing that you’re not alone in the addiction of “mine-ing” on items and joining group buys for baby products.
Having enter this life altering, roller coaster adventure of a lifetime chapter in a woman’s life is hard and needs a lot of guts. Having a mom club offers us the feeling of belongingness, sheer and pure acceptance and being part of a virtual community of mothers backing each other up, and empowering women.
I would like to express my gratitude to those fellow moms who never get tired of empowering and lifting each other up. Let’s continue to share the love and warmth of friendship!